How To Help Your Child Live Out Their S.T.O.R.Y.


As parents, we have the ability to bring up successful, productive adults but we also have the ability to damage. I am a huge advocate of positivity and encouragement. It is necessary to build our kids up to the point where they not just think but know they can take on the world.

Instilling values and security in our children from a young age is vitally important, especially in today’s world.

Teaching our children how to create and live their own story is one the biggest blessings we can give them.

There are endless ways to teach your child how special, important, powerful and wonderful they are. The Bible tells us in Proverbs "22:6 that if we “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.”

What great news! We don’t have to do this by ourselves. Our Heavenly Father is right there helping us along the way.

Your child’s story begins with you. Even in the womb, you can pray for your child and tell them they are meant for great things.

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S. Self-Esteem

Growing up, I remember not having much self-esteem. I was bullied in elementary school, put down in junior high and ignored in high school. I had no self-esteem. Not until I got older. It took a long for me to see the value in me.

I tell you this so that you can begin to make conscious decisions now to regularly affirm your child. As stated earlier, this can begin in the womb. What can you say to your child?

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Tell your child what a blessing they are to you. Tell them that your life wouldn’t be complete without them. Tell them that they can accomplish whatever they set their mind to do.

Let them know that failure doesn’t mean you stop trying. Teach them how to learn from their mistakes.

Instill in them the fact that they are worthy no matter what, that they are valued in each and every circumstance. Self-esteem is an intrinsic idea. It needs to be at the very core of who they are.

T. Take Your Time

Helping our children learn how to take time before making decisions can help them learn discipline and patience. Whether it’s buying a toy, or perhaps a new phone, taking a class, getting married, etc., this concept will take them far in the real world.

When a child learns to be patient and think about the positive and negative possibilities of a decision, they are more apt to choose the most beneficial outcome.

Children are faced with tons of peer pressure. If they are taught that they do not have to rush into anything, they can prevent going down a road not meant for them.

“Before destruction a man's heart is haughty, but humility comes before honor” -Proverbs 18:12.

Taking your time can prevent tragedy. If they are faced with a difficult circumstance, through prayer and your guidance, they will be able to stand strong and resist the feeling to jump into things.

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O. Optimism

Ok, you may be thinking, “why do I need to teach my child optimism?” How is that part of their story? As an adult, you know how heavy this world can be. When you teach your child to look for the good in everyone and everything, you are teaching them how to be the hands and feet of Jesus.

Jesus always saw the good in people. He used circumstances to bring people to repentance so they could live a joyful, blessed life. By walking this out daily ourselves, we are teaching our kids how to do the same. Aren’t there enough negative people in the world? Isn’t there enough destruction?

Show your kids the power of being positive. Show them how being an optimist can not only change their lives but those they come in contact with.


This includes speaking out positive things. There is the power of life and death in the tongue and when you teach your child to speak life and truth, they will walk in life and truth.

“Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear “ -Ephesians 4:29.

In addition, learning to live positively can prevent health issues, depression, insecurity, and more. Optimism is a strength that will carry your child throughout their everyday journey.

R. Respect

Respect. This is a huge issue that seems to be lacking in today’s youth. Currently, my day job is that of a substitute teacher and I can tell you that the lack of respect in children astounds me. I cannot believe the way children behave in front of and directly to those in authority.

It seems as though there has been some kind of disconnect between children and their parents. Maybe it’s because both parents work and time is limited with their children. Maybe parents have their noses stuck in their phones. Maybe parents just don’t care. Maybe it has nothing to do with any of these things.


What I do know, is that children who grow up with no respect for adults, themselves or their possessions turn into adults with no respect for these same things.

Instilling in them a healthy respect for the Lord as well as others, including themselves leads them into being a respected member of society.

“Be kind and honest and you will live a long life; others will respect you and treat you fairly.” - Proverbs 21:21

How can we expect our children to behave properly if we haven’t taught them? Respect for others not only teaches them that other people are important and have value, it also teaches your child that he/she is important and valued.

Self-respect goes along with self-esteem. A child who is taught to respect themselves is less likely to do drugs, be a drop-out, get into fights and more likely to be giving, hopeful, go to college and not allow themselves to become a victim.

Y. You Can Do It

Encourage, encourage, encourage. It is our job to be the main encourager for our kids. They need to know that beyond a shadow of a doubt, we will be there for them, rooting them on.

Our child should be so filled with encouragement and motivation that they feel as if they can conquer the world.

Teaching your child not to give up, to persevere through any circumstance is undeniably one of the most strategic ideas we can impart to them.


We won’t always be there to protect them. They will make mistakes but we can be there for them to help them figure out what worked and what didn’t, they can move on productively and with joy at the possibility of better themselves and their situation. They need to know they can come to us without condemnation.

Building them up in confidence and support allows them to understand that perfection is not required but hope is. Teach them to strive for excellence but not to lose momentum when they fall short.

“Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters,” Colossians 2:23

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I know this post was long but I hope you’ve gained some insight and inspiration and were able to add to your arsenal of parenting skills.

Kids can be taught to love or hate. Growing up in a helpful, positive, and encouraging environment creates a pattern for future generations. Reveal to your kids their S.T.O.R.Y. and watch them turn into amazing adults.

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If you have any questions or comments, feel free to post below.

Have a blessed day!