Finding Your Motivation
This is a guest post by Dom Uguccioni. Thank you Dom, for your uplifting contribution to Live Joyfully Inspired.
Hello everyone, I am very honored and blessed to be able to contribute this guest post.
As a husband and father, I certainly have insight into the important roles that moms and wives have in every family, and also some of the challenges that come with the territory.
What I am going to provide you with today are some ideas and concepts to help you find your motivation, focused on a health and fitness perspective.
When we are healthy, we feel better, have more energy, and are able to be better versions of ourselves in all aspects of our lives.
Finding Your Motivation
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Self-care is very important for us all, and especially for moms and wives. It has been said that you cannot pour from an empty cup; essentially, if you are not kind to yourself and take time to make sure your needs are met, you will not be able to give to others over a sustained period of time.
What we will focus on today is a habit you would like to change, in order to be more healthy or fit. I will use the example of snacking, let’s say the change you would like to make is to stop snacking on unhealthy foods.
The first thing you need to do is find a compelling reason WHY you want to make this change. Let me explain further, you already know that snacking on chips is not the healthiest choice for you, so you want to make a change.
If your reason why is something like “Well, I know I really should stop eating chips at night because it’s probably not good for me.” What do you think the chances are that you will make a change?
What we want is important, but why we want it is what is going to keep our motivation at all times.
As a mom and/or a spouse, you have many reasons why you would want to make healthier choices. Using an example which may resonate for you, try something like this, “I must start making healthier food choices because I am exhausted when I get home from work, and I want to be fully present and excited for my child’s bedtime story.”
That is just an example that has worked for me as a father, your reason why needs to be personal to you, and it needs to be something that you think about all the time and you are excited about.
Take some time to think about some compelling reasons why you want to find the motivation to make a healthy change in your routine.
I’ve Got My Why, Now What?
Now that you have your reason why, the next step is finding an empowering alternative to the behavior you want to change.
Why is this important?
Well, let me ask you a question to illustrate this point, for my previous example, why do you (snack on chips)?
Let me give you a few examples personal to me:
I snack on chips because they taste good.
I snack on chips when I am bored.
I snack on chips when I am stressed.
I snack on chips when I watch TV.
I snack on chips when I deserve a reward.
Basically, we all have our reasons for doing what we do, even if it may not be healthy. For my above example of eating chips, what do all of these reasons have in common? They make me feel good!
When you get right down to it, indulging in soda, chips, ice cream (whatever we are trying to change) makes us feel good.
So, when you look to change a pattern such as snacking, you are asking yourself to stop doing something that makes you feel good. How do you clear this barrier?
You need to find an empowering alternative, something that is linked to your reason why, and makes you feel just as good as whatever you are trying to change.
Think of it this way, we want to frame everything positively. If you frame your result in a negative, you are already starting from a deficit.
Let me show you what I mean with an example:
If you are able to, please stand up. Now, while you are still standing, read the following statement: DO NOT STAND. What happened? Did you have to pause for a moment before you sat down or took another position that was not standing?
Wouldn’t a more understandable command be, PLEASE SIT DOWN? If we communicate with ourselves in this manner, we are likely to experience similar results.
Thinking or saying “I will not eat chips, I will not eat chips” is framed more positively. First, you have to think about eating chips, and how good they taste…you get the idea! This is key to finding your motivation.
If you do not develop an empowering alternative and at the same time you frame your goal or lifestyle change in the negative, all you will have to support you is will power. And let me tell you from experience, will power only takes you so far, especially when you run into a situation that you used to (eat chips) in order to feel good.
For example, my boss really stressed me out today, I really want some chips! I know I shouldn’t, but I’m really stressed, maybe I’ll just have one…
So, if you love snacking but want to eliminate this behavior, find something healthy to put in its place. For example, maybe you decide on drinking a nice, relaxing cup of herbal tea going forward.
While drinking the tea, say to yourself, “I make healthy decisions, this tea is calming me down and helping my body fight off free radicals!”
Even better, connect to your reason why “drinking this tea is going to make me healthier and give me energy to read bedtime stories to my kids.” Obviously customize this for your own goals, but you get the idea…say and do something empowering and positive, rather than something negatively framed.
finding your motivation
I hope this idea has been helpful for you, whatever your goals may be.
If you would like to connect with me or check out more content, please take a look at my blog https://10minutetakeaways.com/, you can also reach me via social media linked off of my blog.
Thanks so much!